|
Love And Human Bonding
Versus
Sexuality
A wise man has once said that
if you try to cut a line which is carrying strong life force, it
will explode right into your face. This can be observed in many
ways, but the two areas where it is most obvious are the areas of
human sexuality and human bonding - combined into the buzz word
"relationships", although a second look will show that these two
things are not always the same. No other part of life produces more
heartbreaks than love, and no other part of life leads to more
madness and crimes than sexuality. (Well, religion maybe... or
how about taxes...)
In both cases a line that
carries strong life force is cut, or otherwise tampered with, and
bang! there you have your explosion. It sometimes takes years, or
even decades, but the explosion always comes - if the life force was
still strong, and not already withered away under massive
Morphic Field influence,
which is the opposite of an explosion - in this case, the life force
disrupted turns inward and destroys the integrity of the person
under attack.
In a Nutshell...
Why are these areas so loaded?
Now you may want to say that terabytes of information have been
written about this, but the answer can be given in one single
paragraph:
most spiritual beings, on this planet at this time in its history,
are too solidly zoomed in
not only to
their human viewpoint, but to their specific culture - the hypnotic
group mind that we are calling a
Morphic Field. Some are also kind of
obsessed with the game,
if you will, but the basic problem is having too narrow a focus,
whether that has been brought about deliberately, as some conspiracy
theorists say, or not.
A little more leaned back, with
a few hours or days of relaxed contemplation, some people might
realize that they live in the wrong culture, and simply pack their
suitcase and move to a better one - a culture that is more aligned
with their personal nature. Or they go and start to build their own
new one. Or: the
instant cure of all relationship pains and sexuality issues would be
to completely zoom out
to the viewpoint of the
Supreme Being. Unfortunately this is not very practical, at
least not in daily life, outside of meditation sessions maybe, so
we'll have to look at these things in a little more detail.
A healthy human being -
well focused on his personal movie, but at the same time
in touch with the rest of the
Human World. The awareness
of the larger parts of existence is reduced, which contracts his
horizon, but at the same time makes for a more efficient
Focus. |
A human being who lost
most of his life force. His
Zoom Level is too
small and too stuck to function. He has too little energy for his own
personal life, and no more awareness of the world around
him. Have a look at our
Entropy page to see how this comes about, and how to
regain lost life
force. |
Here we see only a few
of the countless viewpoints that the Supreme Being has -
or the image would be all white with rays of spiritual
presence. He is literally "omnipresent". Every cell,
maybe every molecule, every single unit of consciousness
is a viewpoint of the Supreme Being. The human world is
one branch of this wonderful big tree, and each human
being is one Eye of God. |
Sexuality vs. Bonding
Back to our topic! First, sexuality and bonding
are not the same. We'll borrow an image from the
Identity Page here. It
illustrates that sexuality is right at
the foundation of a human being's
existence, together with other essentials like food, health, and a
place to sleep. A person without a partner still has a sexuality.
More about this on the page about
Owning The Body.
Also there are forms of bonding
without any sexuality. Parents with children, siblings with
siblings, and many other types of relationship can have strong bonds but no
sexuality. We already see that there is a multitude of possible
situations of bonding, with and without sexuality. So far so good. Now what
complicates it, and makes it insane, is the cultural
taboo, defined as "an inhibition or ban resulting from
social custom or emotional aversion".
Taboos and Rituals
This ties in with the amount of
sanity or insanity of a certain culture's
Morphic Field. A taboo
on child pornography would be a sane taboo, because child
pornography is physically and emotionally harmful for the children
who are used as subjects. If a woman bleeds to death in childbirth
because no male doctor is allowed to touch her and women are not
allowed to study medicine, now that would be two rather insane taboos,
working together to kill a young mother and make an orphan out of a
newborn child.
A correct outfit in Islam.
A lady's face must be covered. A man's face not. Where is
the logic? There is no logic in a taboo. In fact they might
have been imposed on us deliberately to wipe out logical
thinking. Such things just short-circuit the mind.
Some historians say that
the human species has been created by aliens, to be used as
slaves and as soldiers. Arbitrary taboos plus absurd rituals
would serve perfectly to break them into mindless obedience.
Why is there no culture
without some crazy taboos?
Because: there were "God" (ET
astronauts') genes spliced into Earth ape
DNA. So the slaves
became too intelligent. Gotta keep them docile somehow -
not? |
Now
this
image from a catalogue for brides' wear
looks correct to us. Face uncovered, genitals covered. Good
looking girl, that's all we would think!
In Islam, this lady would
be killed for showing her face and her body. And in our
culture, if we took away the underwear, there would be an
outcry. Logic? Same as above - none! |
Animal genitals - nothing
wrong with that (neutral value).
Human genitals - an
outrage (negative value). Created by God, but an outrage.
Logic, yeah. |
Plant genitals - the
embodiment of purity and innocence (positive value).
Weddings, funerals, church services, all unthinkable without
plant genitals (ooops, flowers.)
Were we to bring a
bouquet of human genitals instead, people would call the
police. What do you mean, they are all just genitals? Logic?
What do you mean, logic? Logic is for computers. We have a
culture! Hah! |
 |
| This is one sick puppy
of a tree's branch. It does not fill out the available space
in the center. Seen from the viewpoint of the Supreme Being,
this could be the family model of Polygamy, or that of the
Tribal Group, which are both missing in the Western
culture. |
Natural Limits, Personal Choices and
Morphic Fields
About
natural limits and personal
choices we already talked on the page about
Morphic Fields. We'll
borrow some images from there to have a closer look at love and
human bonding vs. sexuality. But first we have to realize one thing:
it is the nature of Spirit to express itself in every possible way.
Like a tree, which will grow a leaf in every available place, life
will try out every possible variation - maybe to find the best one,
as
Darwin
suggested, but maybe just because it enjoys playing with such a rich
palette of options? In this case, there would be no such thing as
the best model - none of them would be more right or more wrong -
all of them would be just parts of the ambition to combine all
potential variations into one fascinating scintillating picture.
So, today on Earth we are
looking at a multitude of models for sexual fulfillment, personal
bonding, the upbringing of children, and taking care of our seniors,
the people at the other end of a life span. For the Supreme Being this
is still a very narrow focus, because he or she has to take care of
beehives and anthills at the same time, and of bats and of whales,
and of making a new galaxy here and one more black hole there, but
on the Zoom Level of
Humanity alone we already have a lot of options to consider.
Monogamy and Polyamory
All the family models we will explore are
composed from two different types of building blocks, or human
individuals. We are talking about
monogamous people
in contrast with people who
are capable of
Polyamory.
Quoting Wikipedia: "Polyamory, often abbreviated to poly, is
sometimes described as consensual, ethical, or responsible
non-monogamy. [...] Polyamory differs from
polygamy, which refers to multiple spouses. Traditional
polygamy is usually patriarchical and often claims a religious
justification. Polyamory, on the other hand, is a different outlook
grounded in such concepts as gender equality, self-determination,
free choice for all involved, mutual trust, equal respect among
partners, the intrinsic value of love, the ideal of
Compersion, and other mostly secular ideals. As of July
2009, there were estimated to be more than 500,000 polyamorous
relationships in the United States."
|
Compersion - the Opposite
of Jealousy
Compersion, in a nutshell,
has been called "the opposite of jealousy". It means that we enjoy a
beloved person's love to other people, rather than feeling hurt by
it. From a spiritual viewpoint, we include or co-create our
partner's other loving connections rather than excluding them,
making less of them, or even attacking them. Whether these other
connections involve physical intimacy or not, does not really make a
big difference. It is the inclusion vs. exclusion factor that counts.
|
The space
that a traditional monogamous lady allows to
her husband. The world that they share is
illuminated with positive energy, but the
husband's other love connections are
attacked with the aggressive energy of
jealousy. Basically they can only live in
peace when the husband gives up, or cuts
away, any other love (except maybe that to
their children). If this lady forced him to
cut away one of his arms or legs and throw it
away as a sign of his love to her, she would
go to jail. But to cut away the wealth of
love he has created in the past, or may
create right now, or in the future, is her
right as a spouse? He has to mutilate
himself in order to please her? By marrying
her, he has sold away his
rights to his body
and his rights to connect with other people? This
Morphic Field
pattern is omnipresent in the
Western culture. That they surround each
other with aggression all the time is
understood as part of
their love. Huh?? Sounds more like hell on
Earth - not? |
The
generous granting of space and freedom that
comes with the mindset of compersion. This
lady loves her husband WITH his other
connections. She adopts his first spouse and
their children as part of her own family,
and their friendliness enriches her life.
His former lovers are dear to her too. More
than commanding every bit of her husband's
attention, she enjoys seeing him whole,
complete, with all his love connections
alive and intact. Another word for this
wholeness is "integrity". She would not
enjoy the sacrifice of a cut off bloody arm
or leg or love connection. Whether this
inclusiveness goes all the way to physical
intimacy is a question of their bonding type
(see below), and the contract they have made
when they got together. This contract should
contain their very own personal visions for
the future, rather than being a carbon copy
of some culture's or church's general
template (they are all different anyway, so
which one is right?) |
|
Bonding Types
All this may look a bit complicated, but it will be clear in a
moment. Lucky as we are, there are parallels for it in the world
of chemistry. Fascinating! See how life is always experimenting some
more. Where would we be today if we did not have elements that can
form more than one bond?
|
Monovalent
Type
 |
Multivalent
Type
 |
 |
| A
monovalent element - hydrogen. It can form one bond,
either with a multivalent element or with another
monovalent element. Here it has bonded with another
hydrogen atom, so we are looking at a hydrogen molecule.
As a human family model, this would be a monogamy, and
only monogamy is possible for such people. They would
rather live a celibate life than joining another couple
or group into a polygamy. Sex without bonding does not
appeal to them, as it is emotionally empty and they miss
a real companion. |
A
multivalent element - oxygen. It can form two bonds,
either with monovalent elements, or with another
matching multivalent element. Here it has formed a
double bond with another oxygen atom - we are looking at
an oxygen molecule - the active element in the air we
are breathing. As a human family model, this too would
be a monogamy, but both members could also function in a
polygamy. They might take in a third multivalent person,
and if all of them really resonate with each other, everybody would be happy. |
A
multivalent element - oxygen - bonding with two atoms of
a monovalent element - hydrogen. We are looking at a
water molecule here. Good that hydrogen is neither
jealous nor possessive, or we wouldn't be able to make a
coffee or have a shower! As a human family model, this
would be a polygamy - but the two monovalent people
would be unhappy, because polygamy is against their
personal nature, they need a partner of their own.
Nevertheless, such things are enforced in some
cultures. Strictly spoken, this is an act of
Spiritual Criminality,
as it overrides the individual's power of choice. |
A third kind of personality
does not bond at all. If forced into a family, they will either ruin
it or function like robots. Such people can decide to suppress their sex drive
and live a celibate life, or they can become swingers or live in a
tribal group (we don't seem to have any
such groups at the moment though). In a free love environment they are not functional
either, because there we do have bonding even if not long term, and
they simply don't bond. In chemistry this type would correspond with
precious metals or rare gases - elements that do not react with
anything else. However, in human life there is nothing precious
about it. They cannot get along with a spouse, and if they have children, they
don't live with them. Their emotional scene is barren, whether they
get some kind of sex life going or not. They will probably have a lonely old age and
be found as a mummy by accident, two years after their death,
because nobody was missing them.
There is a fourth kind of
personality, which is so new in humanity that you may never have
seen one of them - the highly telepathic
4th Density person, who
merges with their partner or partners rather than bonding
with them. See more about these people in the chapter about the
4th Density Family Group.
Duration and Scope of
Bonding Contracts
The many possible variations of sexual and/or bonding contracts between people are again a matter of
Zoom Levels. For instance,
the so-called "intergenerational contract" between parents and
children is a long-term contract that goes over a whole human
lifetime. It has basically to do with making
incarnations possible
in the long run. In a nutshell, a parent says to a child "I will
take care of your body while it is still too young to function, and
you will take care of my body while it is already too old to
function." If parents and children play their parts with high
quality performance, there will always be bodies for a spiritual
being to incarnate. He just has to make sure that he takes good care
of his children and his parents - or other children, or other old
people -, and if no painful
Personal Lesson takes
away from this math, he can expect to find a good family when it is
time for the next baby body.
Now, in bonding and sexuality
matters we have all sorts of contracts, and again they are a matter of Zoom Levels.
There are small and mid-sized and big and really big contracts. They
are getting bigger in time, and they are getting bigger in the scope
of what they cover in life.
Casual Sex as
in
one-night stands or in the
Swinger scene: a contract short in time and small in scope:
"I will sexually please you, and you will sexually please me."
Duration: one sexual encounter. Scope: Physical sex only. Emotions
are not part of this interaction, although it is helpful if people
are friendly with each other - aggressions or coldness are a turn
off, and after all what they want in such an encounter is a turn
on.
Love Affair
, also in a free love environment: a contract a bit longer in
time and a bit bigger in scope: "I will sexually please you and
fulfill your needs for passionate emotions, and you will sexually
please me and fulfill my needs for passionate emotions." Duration:
some weeks, months or even years. Physical needs like income or
household are not covered by the scope of this contract, also not
the upbringing of children or taking care of the old generation. For this contract to work, people must
match each other's mood level, emotional configuration, and also
have compatible sexual wishes. Affairs without emotional content
actually belong into the casual sex category, only that they are a
little more long-term.
Permanent Relationship
, often (but not always) in some form of marriage: a
contract for a long time, and ideally (if not in bad shape or slowly
deteriorating after a while) large or even totally complete in
scope: "I will take care of all your sexual, emotional and physical
needs, and you will take care of all my sexual, emotional and
physical needs." Roles can be shared - both make money and both work
in the household -, or one provides income and the other does the
household. Children can be part of the scene, and often are. Old
parents are cared for. This
relationship lasts until one of the partners, or both, no longer
provides what the other one needs. Sex, emotions, physical care -
once one feels a serious lack of contributions by the other, the
relationship dissolves, unless it is kept alive a bit longer, for
instance for the sake of children. This is called "serial monogamy"
- it is not "til death parts us" but "as long as our love is alive".
Could theoretically last longer than a lifetime, if people are
really spiritual, really in love, and "death has no say"??
Shorter Relationship:
aiming for a permanent relationship, testing
compatibility. The contract is "Let's try whether we can come to an
agreement about a long term contract, where we care for each other's
every possible need, sexual, emotional, physical - let's see what is
good and what is bad and let's find out whether we want to go for
it."
Lifetime Relationship:
permanent relationship that has been sealed for a whole
lifetime and includes the proverbial "good or bad, sick or healthy,
rich or poor" clause. Most often in form of a marriage. Here it can
be that the sexual component deteriorates when one of the partners
gets sick or loses his libido as he gets older. The rest of the
contract remains intact. If the partner whose libido disappeared is
in any way fair and perceptive, he or she will encourage the partner
who still has his libido intact to find a lover, so his needs keep
getting fulfilled. Another solution would be to provide some other
form of sexual satisfaction, or pay for sexual services. To starve
one partner of sex if he or she needs and want it, is irresponsible
and a contract break - the contract originally included sex, it
cannot be twisted to be sex-less in mid-term. Only if both no longer
want any, can sex drift out of the picture.
Morphic Field
Boundaries
Now, the image to the left
below shows the correlation between personal choices and natural
limits - the family models implemented by Humanity so far. The lady
described in the subtitle is of the polyamorous type, she can bond
with more than one partner. In the situation below she is free to
engage herself in any way she sees fit, according to her personality
profile, inside the natural limits. She either lives outside any
morphic field, or in a liberal morphic field that by its very design respects
people's personal
choices, or in a morphic field that resonates with her
nature (has the same preferences or set of preferences), or she has completed the human
Standard Lesson of
Morphic Field Emancipation.
|
Other than in most
life forms, our mating has been partially unlinked from
procreation. Some people even decide to live totally
without offspring - which on a planet as overcrowded as
ours should not be a very big problem. Various cultures
have developed different family forms and different
forms of sexuality. The main division is
between sexuality with long-term bonding between
partners, and sexuality without bonding - in such
cultures, other ways have to be found to ensure the
upbringing of children. In the image above we see the
personal options of one lady who can share her partner
with another woman or even more than one. She needs a
stable structure though. This flexibility is her
personal feature and does not come from any cultural
morphic field. Having that culturally accepted would allow for a much more caring
social structure, because single people could join a
couple, have their sexual needs fulfilled, and enjoy the
emotional warmth of a marriage without having their own
partner. |
In the image above
we have two examples of people who are not the typical
cookie-cutter copy of their cultural morphic field -
they transcend it to a certain degree. Both
live in a culture that approves of either celibacy or a
form of marriage, but does not allow any unbound form of
sexuality. The Christian couple to the right seasons
their sex life with visits to a swinger club. For their
Christian morphic field this is a mortal sin, but whom
do they harm? They may have more fun together than other
couples, who first get bored by their sex life and then
give it up altogether. Fortunately the Christian morphic
field is growing out of being violent, so they have a
chance to implement their own lifestyle, even though the
morphic field does not approve. - The Mohammedan man to
the left was already married to four women and had
children by all of them, when he met his soulmate from
an earlier incarnation, the love of his life. He could
have divorced one of his wives and married her, but
decided to remain a loyal husband and father. Islam
being a culture of physical violence and ruthless
enforcement of sexual morals regardless of personal
choices, this passion turned into a tragedy.
|
In the image to the right we see two examples
of people who are not fully aligned with their morphic field. The
more liberal morphic field does not destroy such people, while the
very intolerant and violent one does. Now, when is it right and when is it wrong to
break out of morphic field boundaries in bonding and sexuality
matters, or rather to transcend them?
We have already seen that every culture on this planet has been
given their own irrational taboo or taboos, plus their set of
equally irrational rituals. Don't eat a cow, don't eat a pig, keep
laying hens in battery cages (and people in skyscrapers - same thing), cut off girls'
clitoris, keep your genitals covered, keep your face covered, no
university for women, pollute the planet for the next millenia by
using depleted uranium ammunition, blow all infidels to pieces - all
this feels normal for the people inside that particular culture, the
madness is only visible from the outside.
So far none of these cultures has
fully emancipated from these regulations - some are just arbitrary,
others outright destructive -, so we cannot
really count on the logical capacity or social responsibility of
our cultures, they already failed us too long and too massively. We
have to do our own thinking, sorry if this is an effort, but after a
little while we get used to it :-)
Value
Ratio Of Bonding Models
There are several values to consider here:
-
Sexual satisfaction (Sex)
-
Personal freedom (Freedom)
-
Emotional fulfillment
(Emotions)
-
Physical needs - income - household
(Physical)
-
Reliable upbringing of children
(Children)
-
Loyal caring for sick and old people
(Seniors)
Now we will draw a little thermometer for each of the
bonding, family and sexuality models given below. That should show
us their up- and downsides, seen from two angles: the survival angle (human
level values) and the "power of choice" angle (spiritual or personal
values, as described in the chapter about
Spiritual Criminality).
To make for a complete picture, there are some more models in the table below
than we usually see, because we have added types of love that transcend the human scope.
|
Celibacy:
no partner at all. Typcial
examples would be catholic priests, but celibacy is also
required in other religions, and of course some people are
forced to live a celibate life, because they either cannot
find a partner, or have lost him or her. In some versions of
celibacy it is not even allowed to
masturbate. This is seen
as a very spiritual way of living, but actually it is
extremely harsh on the physical body, as it is denied a basic
need. A really Caring Commander would not do such a thing.
The body is basically an animal, and a really kind and
responsible spiritual
being would not be cruel to an animal. However, there may be
Personal Lessons
that require such experiences, and that always has to be
respected - see more below. From a spiritual viewpoint, the
main pitfall in the idea of celibacy is that the body is
seen as something low or inferior - "only" matter. Matter's
true nature as an equal brother of Spirit is denied. This
error is massive and points at Spiritual Illiteracy, a
specific version of
Subject Illiteracy. See our page on the
Basic Split between Spirit
and Matter. - Celibate people, mostly nuns, are often active
in social institutions where they take care of children or
seniors, they are just not their own family. Also they may
have emotional connection, and their celibacy could be their
personal decision rather than culturally enforced. So these
are all variables. |
Sex: none
Freedom: ??
Emotions: ??
Physical: ??
Children: ??
Seniors: ??
|
|
Monogamy: a
Permanent Relationship between two people in form of a legal
marriage. Typically between a man and a woman, now also becoming possible
between homosexuals in some countries. For two monogamous people
this would be an ideal form of a stable relationship, also well
suited for the upbringing of children, and socially respected and
established (full Morphic Field agreement and support). One big risk
for a monogamy is that one or both partners may not be truly
monogamous at heart - they may be of the
multivalent type. If they have not made their own personal
contract but bought into a contract pre-fabricated for them by their
society or a church, there is a failure potential here. Breaks of
such contracts that were signed, but not authored by the two spouses,
make for a majority of heartbreaks and crimes in the area of
relationships. Other risk
factors are the same as for other long-term relationships: the decay
process of Entropy. As soon as one or both partners cease to create
the relationship in one or several areas, it is doomed.
|
Sex: high
Freedom: ??
Emotions: high
Physical: high
Children: high
Seniors: high
|
|
Polygamy: a
Permanent Relationship between more than two people in form of a
legal marriage. Illegal in the Western culture. If all people
involved agree on this system and are of the
multivalent type, this
family model can be a very positive one. For the upbringing of children it
can be more flexible than the Monogamy, especially if there is more
than one woman in the family - they can alternate in taking care of
the children, if one is sick, giving birth or otherwise occupied.
The risk factor in this family model is that it is typically in use
in very violent countries whose
Morphic Fields are ruthless in
micro-managing family matters rather than leaving these decisions to
the people involved. So it comes that monogamous people are forced
into families with more than one partner, and are unhappy for their
whole lives. In order to really work, the high ideals of
Polyamory
would have to be applied to the polygamy family - one of them
being respect for a person's free will.
|
Sex: high
Freedom: ??
Emotions: ??
Physical: high
Children: high
Seniors: high
|
|
Swingers: Casual
Sex without bonding, often with strangers (in a club), done
systematically as a lifestyle. Some swingers are married
though - so they also have a Permanent Relationship, and just
season their sex life with additional casual sex encounters.
Main attraction factors are physical features. Beyond the
momentary sexual thrill, the personal quality of these
encounters is questionable, also there is a risk of
Sexually
Transmitted Diseases, but there is one good thing about
them: they break
Morphic Field restrictions, so they have the
potential of teaching a morphic field more tolerance and
respect for personal lifestyle decisions. Objectively spoken, the
swinger scene is
promiscuous,
but as this term is sometimes used as an insult and does
then no longer respect the personal freedom which is a birthright of
our divine nature, it could turn into an act of
Spiritual Criminality
to use it. |
Sex: high
Freedom: high
Emotions: low
Physical: --
Children: --
Seniors: --
|
|
Free Love:
Unregulated sexual encounters, similar to a
Love Affair, but
potentially with more than one partner. The contract is "We
will exchange sexual pleasure and loving emotions right
now." Can be of a shorter or longer duration, and is
relatively small in scope, as it does not cover any wider
responsibilities like income, household, upbringing of
children or caring for sick or old people. Free love should
not be mistaken for the Swinger
scene, because it is fundamentally different. There can be
high emotional quality in free love encounters, the focus is
more on emotional fulfillment than on sexual thrill, and
the attraction is based on personal resonance rather than physical features.
By not engaging in human
survival goals like ensuring an income, running a household or
bringing up children, free love can even be a very spiritual type of
encounter, as the act of living fully in the moment of NOW, without
clinging to the past and without any thought of the future, is seen als
the ultimate way of existing by many spiritual movements. For Earth
life this is not very practical, as it absolutely requires the
planning of the future, especially if there are children, so young
people tend to pass through the free love scene as a stage of
self-realization before they move on to the relationship stage.
Bonding does happen in free love. It is more fluid than in a
relationship, and after a while two people who have met there may
develop a stronger bond and become a pair. This process is hastened
if pregnancy occurs. The couple may remain in the free love scene
and continue to have outside sexual encounters, or not.
People in the free love scene
do not necessarily have to be of the Multivalent Type. They can just as well be of the monovalent
type, if they are on a crusade to break
Morphic Field oppression.
In this case their reason to be in the free love scene would not be
the shallow chasing of always fresh and new variations of physical
thrill that is at the core of
Promiscuity, but a revolutionary mindset that is aiming at
personal freedom and sovereign Ownership of the
Body.
|
Sex: high
Freedom: high
Emotions: high
Physical: --
Children: --
Seniors: --
|
|
Tribal Group:
an early family model from the times when human beings still
lived in tribal camps in the wilderness. Sex would have nothing to
do with bonding. Children were brought up by the mothers of the
tribe, the men would provide food for everybody. No restrictions, no rigid rules or patterns - people would
just go about their activities that were necessary for survival,
like hunting, gathering firewood, building huts, digging out roots,
or first attempts at agriculture. Sounds primitive, but while they
were always anxious to have enough food or a safe shelter, they were
never anxious about sex. Their contract was that everybody would do
their best to survive, and sex was nothing to worry about. It
probably wasn't very sophisticated, passionate emotions probably
missing, and whether the women got
anything out of it (except children) is a big question. So, for today
the model would have to be upgraded with more lovemaking skills,
more personal quality, and
instead of hunting and gathering we would have income providers, but
without jealousy between people, and without cultural restrictions
about what is allowed and what not, it sounds pretty much like
paradise. No social parasites. No classes. Just a personal pride in
doing the best for the tribe. Maybe an early
3rd Density model for
the 4th Density Family Group?
|
Sex: high
Freedom: high
Emotions: ??
Physical: high
Children: high
Seniors: high
|
|
4th Density Family
Group:
Both 3rd and 4th density
families and groups have their place in the
Face of God - as well as
the other densities as described by
Lyssa
Royal, from the 1st to the 7th. |
4th Density family groups
have not existed in human history so far, as 4th density as such is
a cutting edge new model of consciousness that starts to emerge
right now. It is based on advanced spiritual abilities like
telepathy and group consciousness. Members of such a family group
perceive each other as parts of themselves, or rather they
merge with the other members of the group into a
bigger "me". We could say that they have dissolved the solid
boundaries of the human ego, and are no longer fully separated from
each other. Their "skin" surrounds no longer just one but several
individuals, who are synchronized with each other in most every way
and are acting in unison.
This requires high
compatibility in the members of such a group. Actually their
compatibility is the factor that makes them find and join each other
in the first place. On the physical plane, there is a parallel to
this in the joining of single celled organisms in order to form a
multi celled organism - see Heidrun Beer's article
From Separation to Co-Creation
for more details. Each cell is still an individual, but they have a
very thin and permeable skin that makes for the constant balancing
of nutrients with the inner body environment by way of
Osmosis. The only solid and impermeable skin they have is
the skin to the outside that surrounds the whole organism. Inside
they share the same biochemical environment, or quality of
nourishment, and they perceive the whole compound of cells as only
one Self.
Survival resources like money,
space, food and also sex are shared by the members of such a group
in the same way they would be shared inside a human body: each
individual inside the group's skin gets his fair share of
everything. The personal pride and ethical standard of all group
members is that everybody inside their "skin" is fully taken care of
- whenever somebody has a need or a want, none of them will rest
before they have worked out the very best of solutions.
Jealousy or possessive
3rd Density forms of bonding
become impossible, as they are based on the idea of separated
individuals: "You <> Me", while
4th Density thinks in a "You +
Me =
One" pattern. They simply have to share these things, because any other
group member's pain, hunger or need is perceived with the same, or
nearly the same intensity as the own, just like the head cannot sleep while the stomach
is hungry - they are parts of the same whole. Here we have the
reason why
Communism didn't work: people didn't perceive each
other's feelings, they continued to act on personal greed and on
violence, so ultimately they returned to their existence as
separated individuals,
solidly isolated from each other. Maybe
Marx was a 4th
density personality - his visions speak for it -, and maybe some of
his comrades too, but they tried to build a 4th density society from
3rd density members - that cannot work.
Terms like
Promiscuity totally lose their meaning inside a 4th density
family group. Physical intimacy between different people inside the same
"skin"
is just like touching my own hand, my own knee, my own ear, my own
elbow. These are all parts of my own self - calling me promiscuous
for that would be completely improper, completely missing the truth
of the situation. The truth is that I am being all of them, and
taking care of them is basically taking care of myself - how can I
be promiscuous by just being myself and touching my own parts?
Furthermore, while promiscuity is aiming at very short term sexual
fireworks, an encounter extremely short in duration as well as small in
scope, the 4th density sharing is based on absolute
loyalty of the widest possible scope - the type of total commitment
that we have called Spiritual
Love. Sex is part of that because it
is one of many needs, and it gets high attention because all needs
and wants get high attention and sex is not arbitrarily cut out of
that intensity - while in a promiscuous environment it is often
the only need that is perceived and taken care of, while the bigger
part of the person is neglected, or in most cases not even
perceived.
The most relevant factor in the
4th density family group is that its members immediately perceive
each other's joy, pain and every possible need. It's like this: if
my left hand is hurt by a thorn, my right hand will clean and dress
the wound. This is the most natural thing to do, as they are both my
own hands. Or if my head is cold, my hands will put a hood on it.
The same Self that feels the cold proceeds to provide the warmth to
ease the pain. In a 4th density family group, this principle is
taking care of every need of every member - hunger, tiredness,
emotional needs, educational needs, intellectual needs, health needs,
spiritual needs, everything. Sex is simply an integral part of
that. Neglecting one member's sexual needs would be just as absurd
as supplying blood to four fingers of a hand but not to the 5th. And
it would backfire badly, because the whole body would suffer from
the pain and panic of that one neglected finger.
If an individual of the
4th density personality type cannot find matching "family" members of the same
type, he or she may try to connect with the 3rd density people in
their environment who come closest in quality and abilities. Such
connection attempts usually end in a disaster of mutual
non-understanding and painful disappointments. The 4th density
person may get depressive to the point of becoming suicidal, as
their very nature asks for a life with others, and they either don't
have any other people around or cannot make their family model work
with them. Living on their own is traumatic for them, much as it would be traumatic
for an arm to lose the connection to the rest of its body - it would
bleed to death in a matter of minutes. Exactly this happens to
lonely 4th density people - they keep bleeding the emotional output
that by their nature is supposed to nourish the rest of the group. It helps the
situation if both 3rd and 4th density people are educated about these principles (see
page about Subject Illiteracy),
but the real solution for the 4th density personality is simply to find compatible group
members of their own type, and make it work in real life. Sometimes
only one can be found. This is how 4th density people can end up in
an apparent monogamy, but in fact it is the smallest version of a
4th density family group, and if they find matching people later,
this group could expand in size.
The 4th density group
consciousness concept may be hard to understand for 3rd density
people, but if we keep in mind that for instance bees can see in the
ultra violet light spectrum while we do not, and ants know only two
dimensions, so that when they crawl up and down a tree they believe
they are on a flat surface all the time, we have some more examples
of the wide range of variations that life has brought about. Life
will simply try out any possible model
that it can dream up for a certain challenge.
There is one big risk
for the 4th density family group, which is the attack by established
Morphic Fields - see the fascinating bestselling novel
Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert A. Heinlein, written in
1961, where this family model has been described first (Heinlein
traces it back to early Christianity), complete
with all morphic field attacks imaginable. If
they are only mild - as in harsh critique or opposition -, that
can be tolerated or overcome, but some morphic fields may simply wipe out such
groups by killing them physically. However: there was a time when
newly emerging life forms - the plants - produced a gas that was
toxic to many life forms existing at the time - oxygen. Today most
life forms breathe the oxygen that plants produce, and as an
exchange supply them with the CO2 they need for
their growth. The old way of breathing is very much in the minority now -
anaerobic
microbes. So, as life always evolves (until it turns around and
starts going down the road of Entropy), 4th density groups
may become a more familiar concept in the future. If not, then
Darwin
was right, and they are not fit to survive. But predictions and
channelings from various sides all say that Earth is moving into
4th density consciousness, so these tiny groups would be the
first moves of that major step in evolution. |
Sex: high
Freedom: high
Emotions: high
Physical: high
Children: high
Seniors: high
|
|
A
God emulating a human being
has zoomed in to the size
of a human viewpoint, but has kept his God level energy and
awareness. He transcends the human world in scope and is
intimately in touch with all that is. |
God
Emulating Human:
Not a human family model, but we include it here so you
can recognize such a person, should you ever meet one and wonder
what the hell you are looking at (they are
rare). The underlying bigger truth is that all of us are
Gods in Disguise (title of a fascinating book written by
Alan C. Walter.) The
Dalai Lama was once addressed as a deity walking on Earth by
a journalist, and he smiled at the man in his typical endearing way
and told him that every single person on Earth is of the same divine
nature, only that he (the Dalai Lama) is aware of it, and most
others are not. He continued with the statement that he sees it as
his mission on Earth to remind his fellow humans of their own divine
nature. Now that is an example of "God emulating human": A fully
aware unit of consciousness on a mission to wake up others who have
fallen asleep, or have been overpowered and gone unconscious. He is
commanding a huge followership and is adored by many more, but his
basic attitude is to humble himself into being human (making himself smaller) in
order to serve others by teaching them to remember their own
greatness - a fascinating contradiction, if there ever was one.
There may be other reasons for
a God level being to emulate a human person. He may want to assist
humanity in other things than consciousness work. He may want to bring a new important development into
existence - electricity, aeroplane traffic, or the internet. He may
want to study a culture, family life, human relations with nature, a
part of human history, or any smaller aspect of human existence. If
that aspect happens to be love and/or sexuality, we may look at a
person who keeps doing new and different things in this department, as if on a study
checklist - very contrary to the typical pattern where
people repeat doing the same thing over and over. Such people may
find themselves under massive
Morphic Field attack, as this is a concept more or less
unheard of in human cultures. On the other hand, some very
spiritually powerful people may trample through Earth live leaving a
trail of emotional casualties behind them, like broken marriages -
including children who suffer from the loss of a parent -, or girl-
or boyfriends who cannot understand what happened to them. These
cases are not at a God level, they are just powerful people on an
ego trip. A God is motivated by
Spiritual Love. He or she would go out of their way to
avoid such disasters.
If they are not on a journey
specifically designed to explore human love, bonding, family life,
the upbringing of children etc., God level people are often doing
projects "bigger than life", and have no family that would absorb
much of their attention. If they have adopted a body in a culture
that requires them to be celibate, they will be celibate. Otherwise
they are too kind to force a body to live under such inhospitable
circumstances - bodies already have a hard time to endure the
enormous energy of a God level spirit. People who are very proud of
their celibate virtues are most certainly not at a God emulating a
human - they are humans on some specific
Personal Lesson,
like overcoming the addiction to physical sensation, living against
nature, or another such
Screenplay that fascinates them. A God on
the other hand will very much be a
Caring Commander and do
anything to keep his animal not only in good shape, but also in a
good mood.
Very rarely a God level being
meets another God level being who would be a real peer. Short of
that, rather than having a spouse or
a family who would suffer from their occupation with big projects
most of the time, they appreciate the occasional offerings that come
to them from the people they encounter during their journey through
Earth life. Many of these offerings can be on the energetic level -
affection, admiration, but also the vibrations of beauty that come from
the world of art - music, uplifting paintings or inspired writings. Some will also be
on the body level: food, presents, flowers, physical touch from gentle
caresses all the way to lively sex. But even that can come more as a
vibration than in physical form. A God level being's existence transcends the body so
much that the energetic vibration is far more important than the physical
action. Just a bite from another person's cake may be enough to
activate that frequency. Or a tiny sip from their champaign. Passionate erotic energy coming half way around the globe
from a sweetheart on another continent may appeal more to a God than a
Swinger's
plain sexual intercourse, which is painfully lacking in heart energy,
sensual raffinesse
and spiritual connection.
Were you ever curious why
offerings to the Gods were often burned on an altar in history?
Humans were sending them the food's frequency pattern rather than
the actual meat. Outside of a human existence, a God level being
does not depend on energy inflow. He is producing energy of any
desirable pattern on his own in abundance. But emulating a human, he
needs inflow, because this is part of the human nature, and he would
not be emulating a human very well if he did not also emulate this
need.
Moving on, the God might leave
behind some of his own energy with the people whom he encountered.
If he was positively touched by what he saw, we might call this
present of divine energy a blessing (minus the funny gestures).
Like, say, a man who at the age of 50 starts a second family where
he aims at doing everything right that went wrong in his first
family, where he was still too young to be a responsible father.
That would earn him a God's blessing. If on the other hand the movie
that he visited was disgusting or painful, as in the case of a man
insulted by his wife for so many years that it results in
psychosomatic illness, the energy answer might be called "God's
wrath" rather than a blessing. In other words, he will leave behind
a comment like on an internet blog, just in energetic form rather
than written language.
A God level being can be hurt
very much if the humans whom he
loves cannot understand him - he being so much bigger than any of
their customs and patterns. In the Western culture, one such painful area is
physical intimacy, or in other words, tactile communication. A
monogamous human can hardly understand a God's all-encompassing
outpouring of love energy that will arrive on all available channels. He can hit the God with very
bad accusations, as he cannot wrap his mind around what the God is doing.
In such a way, the God can lose "his people" - the very motivation
for him to be around in the first place. He may leave the scene when
this keeps happening, if he has completed all his work and there is
nothing left for him to do there. But it would be a mistake to call
this a suicide. If a human being kills himself, it is usually
because he has failed too much in his human endeavours and has
contracted to zero size. The God level being on the other hand leaves
because he is tired of too many restrictions put on him by the
patterns of being human, and wants to shake these things off and
expand back to his real stature. Again, both are immortal spiritual
beings and a human life is just one of many movies they play, but
one is aware of this fact and the other is not.
|
Having
zoomed in to the size
and nature of a human being, a God is still operating
much more in the energetic range than with the physical
body. He has frequencies active on all human sense
channels: vision, sound, smell, taste, and tactile. He
is "sending" and "receiving" on these channels, much
like a 2-way radio set. Other frequencies transcend the
physical senses, but like the octaves on a claviature
the physical senses are repeated in the finer, or
so-called "subtle matter" range. These things are
happening in the
energy bodies. We all have them, just in a higher or
lower state of activity.
The image above
illustrates a God emanating energy with a complete
spectrum. Note that he is not shining at one
particular tree. He is just shining, period. Asking the
sun to shine at only one tree is just as absurd as
trying to put the sun into a matchbox. If the sun were
incautious enough to even try to crawl into that
matchbox, it would burn the matchbox to ashes in an
instant. |
Can a
God switch off a certain frequency that would be part of
a complete spectrum? Of course he can - he has complete
control over these things. Here it is the color "blue"
that he does not emanate. Does it make sense to switch
that off? You judge. Our God here has already
zoomed in to the size
of a human being, which makes his viewpoint rather tiny,
compared to that of a galaxy or a universe. Next he has
zoomed in to the human being's nature - he can not
breathe under water like a goldfish, he cannot fly like
a humming bird, he cannot see ultraviolet like a bee. But he
has his five senses. Now he switches one of them off.
Why so? A Morphic
Field requires him to act against the very nature he
just assumed. Logic? None! We are used to having our
tactile channel switched off (sex is only a part of
that). How would you feel if you had to manage your day
blindfolded instead, because a morphic field requires
you to switch off the visual channel? Think about the
possibility that somebody might be attacking your
sovereignty in an attempt to enslave you, or keep you
enslaved. Just food for thought. |
Now, human beings have other
priorities than Gods. They must scratch and peck for their food,
they must build a nest, they must raise their fledglings. If he
wants to enjoy such a movie by playing a human, a spirit has to turn
off - or downsize - much of his energy, and reduce his options
drastically. That's how we all got to be human - reducing our
original God level selves, cutting away this, cutting away that,
pouring our essence into a model a million times smaller than our
original selves. Shrinking. A God who is only
emulating a human, however, has not downsized his awareness
and energy - only his space - maybe not even that. If you want an
encounter with such a person, turn back into a God yourself. Then he
will not burn you, and you will have a blissful time together.
As a
concept, that can be done in a fraction of a second. In the physical
universe, it may need some weeks, months, or even years. In the
past, the way to do this might have been a spiritual practice like
"Shivaic Tantrism, the secret spiritual path that seeks to transcend
ego and rediscover the divine by embracing the passions" (book cover
quote) - see Heidrun Beer's review of Daniel Odier's book
Tantric Quest. In times of the internet, you can unravel your previous reductions in processing
- you don't even have to leave home, you can get most sessions over
an internet phone system, like
Skype.
Or you may want to enjoy staying human for another while -
especially if there are some of your
Personal Lessons open
that you first want to complete. We can assist you on both of these
roads. |
|
Your
Personal Future
We hope you have found your own personal
bonding and family type somewhere on this page, if you have not
known it before, and that we could inspire you to design your ideal
contract with your partner or partners. Make sure that it has your
own signature, not that of your parents, professors, country, or
church! One recommendation: Always keep a promise that you have
made, and never make a promise that you don't want to keep. It is up
to you, and only to you, what you promise to another person, inside
and outside the area of relationships.
Relationship, bonding and sexuality matters
belong into the array of human
Standard Lessons. They
are typically learned up to the age of 30, or earlier than that. Now
like other standard lessons, there can be many reasons that these
things have not been fully mastered at their typical time. Bad
parenting, incompetent teachers, health problems,
Morphic Field suppression, natural disasters, important
projects, saving the world, other distractions, war... you
name it!
If this happened to you, let it not discourage
you - in a minute from now, you can return to these unfinished tasks. The world
is your oyster! Some men learn to read and write in their 40's. Some
ladies don't learn to make their own money before their kids have
grown up and they got a divorce. It is never too late to catch up
with a Delayed Lesson.
Do you really want to wait for your next incarnation? Maybe what you
need is not a fresh body - just a fresh resume? And don't worry
about who will be at your side as your teacher, your coach, your
personal angel. Remember the saying "When the student is ready, the
teacher will appear" - if you muster the courage to tackle that
challenge, the Intelligent
Universe will write some really lovely
Key People into your
script.
|
